So I’m getting married. It’s been one and a half months now (miraculously, I managed to post our Seoul trip despite my busy schedule) after receiving a lovely engagement ring from him. It just might have been the funniest proposal one could experience in their lifetime. It happened on the night of Mother’s Day, he gave me a silver Sailor Moon beauty mirror that appeared to be encasing an object. It gave me the impression that he might have checked the contents inside before giving it to me, but upon opening it, I saw the pretty little ring.
Of course, my answer was yes, but it was a funny scene because I’m already used to his ‘Can I marry you right now?‘ rhetoric (don’t worry, it’s merely an endearment) that I initially hesitated when met with a serious request for a change, but when he said ‘for realsies’, I felt that ‘finally’ moment.
I felt ecstatic, in regards to the proposal, and to getting married in general. I informed friends right away and told my parents later that week. My family is happy about the wedding but when we talked about our moving out plans — well, that’s another issue that we have to ‘prove’ to them. Talking about or even mentioning ‘moving out’ is a triggering issue especially to families with strong familial ties.
Despite that, Jacob and I are excited to reach a tremendous milestone this year.
It’s been a roller coaster ride ever since, and I almost called off the wedding when the preparations were taking a toll on us, both mentally and physically. I can only wish that a parent would feel no shame in their daughter/son’s wedding plans, even if it is different from what they have envisioned. Times have drastically changed.
How we got together
Our relationship started three years ago — we’ve spent almost a year talking online, then he later decided to visit me here and spend two years living with me in the Philippines. With two years of living together, we’ve experienced plenty of ups and downs which made us cry, but through these trials, we’ve grown to know each other more and we’ve been trying to fix things by understanding and helping one another.
I think we’ve settled into ourselves, although we have different cultures, personalities and interests, we’re both doing our best to make this relationship work.
Wedding preparations & other plans
While making this post, we’re currently waiting on our Marriage License to be released so we can get married through both Civil and Church wedding.
Yes, we’re taking part in both processes to appease my side of the family, and believe me when I say it hasn’t been an easy process, especially for a foreigner, as we’ve had to gather documents with varying requirements dependent on the Municipality.
These are the documents we have submitted for the Marriage License in Makati, please note that we’re both single, so I will not put the divorced/widowed documents here:
- Marriage License form.
- Groom and Bride columns must be filled out with their own handwriting, as proof that the couple is getting married.
- Birth Certificates for both couples. (PSA and 1 photocopy)
- CENOMAR for both couples. (PSA and 1 photocopy)
- Filipino/a: Letter of Parental Consent (18 – 21 y.o) or Parental Advice (21-25 y.o)
- Pre-Marriage Counseling (from DSWD and MHD) (Original and copy)
- Documents for Filipino/Filipina:
- Residence Certificates (CEDULA). (Original and copy)
- Barangay Certificate for Makati Resident.
- Documents for US Citizen:
- Affidavit In Lieu of Certificate of Legal Capacity to Marry from the U.S. Embassy, you can follow the process here. (Original and copy)
- Photocopy of Passport photo and stamp of arrival/visa extension.